Friday, January 10, 2020

I've levelled up!



Hello old friend and dear readers!

Thank you for joining me for the past five years of this journey of me diving deeper into my passion for decluttering and finding my way towards intentional living.

I am truly grateful for you. I am truly grateful for this site. It has given me direction and purpose. Ultimately it has guided me into the phase of my life I am now in. Life has changed and as my path has become clearer, my focus has also shifted.

So, as I move forward and step into this next phase, I want to say thank you and invite you along for the ride!

The Update 

I will be keeping this blog live as I feel that there are a lot of value adding posts on here. However, there will be no more new posts on this site.

Keep reading to find out where the new blog is and all the new and amazing services I have created! If this is your first visit to this blog and you're finding posts and information that is of interest to you, come and visit me on my current site or connect with me over social media!

Levelling Up!

I have re-branded, built a new website, and launched my business over the past five months. I have moved from "Detox Declutter Design" to the full on coaching business of Decluttered Intentions. The Decluttered Intentions blog is still alive, but now the new version exists on the Decluttered Intentions website.

I am so excited to be stepping fully into my passion and purpose. Clearly these topics have been important to me, since I did start blogging about them. But now I feel like I am not only talking about the things I love but also taking action surrounding them. On top of that, I am helping other people do the same! 

Come Join Me!

I would love for you to come hang out with me in the Decluttered Intentions realm! 


Check out all my awesome coaching services and hear about past client success stories.

Come hang out with me on social media! Find me on Instagram and the newly launched Facebook page! You can also browse the Decluttered Intentions Pinterest boards to get inspired! 

Thank you!

This has been my greatest passion, outlet and learning experience. 
See you on the other side!


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Wednesday, April 17, 2019

The Decluttered Intentions Podcast - Ep 1: Introduction

Welcome to the Decluttered Intensions Podcast 

My "Why"

I have published the pilot episode of a podcast I have created called Decluttered Intentions. Decluttering is something that I am incredibly passionate about and doing this podcast allowed me to understand why I hold it so close to my heart. Similar with the Instagram Live I did a few months back with my dear friend Heather, talking about my experience of decluttereing allowed me to realize why this is important to me.

On this podcast, I share my personal experience of the impact decluttering has had on my life and how it led me to minimalism. I talk about the ways in which our physical space and belongings can effect our lives, and I share how becoming more concious of what you bring into your life can help you live more intentionally. Choosing what you want and what you don't want can be applied to all all areas of your life, not just your physical belongings. Ultimatley, letting go of what is not serving you will allow you to critically evaluate what is importnat to you and only allow that into your life which adds value.

Overview of the Podcast 

Decuttered intentions is the podcast about finding your way to an intentional life through decluttereing as a young adult. There is so much change happening as we find our own way after going out into the world on our own... but this could also be the perfect time to start creating the life you want!

In this pilot episode, I introduce the topics of delcuttering and minialism, which will be the basis of the entire podcast sereis. Most importantly, I discuss the role of decluttereing and minimalism in intentional living.

Topics Dicussed:
  • My story about where my passion for decluttering and minimalism came from
  • Decluttering as a two-fold process
  • Minimalism - debunking stereotypes 
  • Decluttering an dminimalism in relation to living with intention
  • Takeaway throughts and exercise

Listen to The Decluttered Intentions Podcast here!

https://soundcloud.com/olivia-heine-410793902/decluttered-intentions-podcast-introduction-ep-1

Intersted in hearing more of Decluttered Intentions? Let me know!

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Friday, March 1, 2019

Why and How you need to create your own vision board

Six Reasons Why Vision Boards are more than just an Arts and Crafts Project



What is a vision board?

A vision board is a bulletin board or piece of paper on which you display your goals, aprirations or life you are working towards. As you can see above, that can include various different categories from relationships, to career, to travel - the list is endless.

Depending on where you currently are in your life, your own creation of a vision board can have different purposes. Maybe you just want to get clear on what you want and all the things you dream of doing. Maybe you are going through a difficult shift where you are feeling lost and want to find a clear direction moving forward.

Even if you are not completley clear on what is it you want from life, you can start by adding all the things you love to do onto your board. A vision board can be used as a goal setting space, where you place key words, locatons, or to-do's on the board as a kind of bucket list. On the other hand, a vision board can also be a way to display the way you want your life to look or the feeling you want it to have.

Because the board is open to your own interpretation, you decide how you want it to look and feel and what gets to make the cut to be on the board. Perhaps you really want to focus on travelling to Asia. Even though that is only one aspect of your life, you can still dedicate your entire board to it. Ask yourself questions; what do I need to achieve to make this happen (maybe financially?), when do I want to go, where do I want to go, and how long do I want to go for. The more specific, the better.

The Importance of Creating your own vision board 

The main point of a vision board is to become clear on what you want and where you want to be going. It is important to write it down or cut out visuals because when you visiually see and remind yourself of your goals and dreams, you will begin making choices and steps in the direction of those goals.

I have outlined five other important reasons why you need to create a vision board for yourself, so keep reading and find out!

6 reasons everyone should make a vision board 

1. It helps you get clear on what you really want and what your passions are

Your vision board should be something that you love to look at every single day.  It should represent goals or wishes you have for this life or what you want to your life to look like.

Vision boards are for everyone, but are especially helpful if you are feeling lost and are not quite sure what you want out of life. Flip through a magazine or scroll through pinterest and cut or print out images that speak to you. As you go through this process, you will begin to see where your interests and passions lie. Is there travel involved? Are there career related images? Do you have images that represent the kind of relationship you want with a partner or with friends? All of these can indicate what your heart is desiring, what that kind of life looks like, and what you should be putting your energy towards.

Once you have identified your passions or wishes, you can then hone in on what excatly a life filled with them will look like.

2. It reminds you everyday to make choices in alignment with what you really want 

One thing I talk about on here a lot is making intentional choices. Intentional living is my mantra for minimalism and decluttering; its not about having a set quantitiy of things but instead quality in everything. Therefore, you end up only brining items into your life that truly spark joy and add value. The same goes for people, jobs, relationships, commitments, and so on that you welcome into your life.

Creating a vision board reminds you of the kind of life you want for yourself, and you can always refer back to it when stuck in a tough decision.

3. It can be emotionally motivating 

Seeing your dream life or goals every. single. day. can get your fired up about them! It encourages you to keep going full speed ahead towards your dreams. In turn, you will be more receptive and open to opportunities that come your way because you are aware of your dreams. 

4. Where focus goes, enegery flows 

Now bear with me on this one because this is something deeply imbedded in my belief system. The energy of the world we live in can determine the direction of your life. You might not agree with me, and that's okay, but like i said hear me out.

What we place our focus on is where we ultimately put energy, and in turn, what we place energy on is what grows in our life. Makes sense, right? If you really want to take a trip to bali (aka me!) and you add that to your vision baord and see it every day, then you will be conscious of that dream abd begin intentionally making decisions that support you in reaching that goal. Maybe you will start budgeting or maybe you start meeting people who have been to Bali. Maybe opporunities start presenting themselves to you, not because those opportunities did not exist before, but because you would not have been aware of them if you hadn't become clear on this goal of travelling to bali through your vision board.

Vision boards help you refocus your energy when things in our daily lives get stressful. When you start losing sight of this life that you want to create or this trip you want to take or the relationship you want to have, you can simply come back to your vision board and redirect your energy towards the things that will make this life possible.

5. Become aware of the life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness  

We live in a world that has a lot of expectations and narratives about what the "right" things to do are. One of these narratives is, "after you finish high school you need to go to university and then you need to get a job and climb the corporate ladder." There are many others like this that make us feel as though we need to make choices to fit the status quo rather than what our hearts are truly desiring.

Don't get me wrong, we need to pariticpate in society to make money and meet our basic needs; however, you have to listen to that little voice inside you in your gut to feel truly fulfilled. Sometimes this requires you to let go of how you thought life should be, and embrace the other things that are trying to work out for you. They might seem like interruptions but they are there for a reason.

Using the travel example again, maybe you are so career focused right now but have this little itch telling you to get out and explore. Add these little voices to your board and become aware of what they are saying. Maybe they will open up a life you couldn't have even imageined.

6. Affirmations

I love having affirmations on my vision board. Not only do I visually see what I want my life to look like and the direction I am going, but I have verbal cues that encourage me and remind me of who I am and all that I can achieve. When I am struggling or feel lost or stressed about the future, I turn to my affimations and remind myself of the direction I am going and the power I have.


It's important to remember that your vision board is not permanent; you can change it whenever you like. You can make your vision board representative of the year you want to have or the next couple years. It's all up to you and open to interpretation based on what you need right now!

Another important reminder is that simply making the board and then sitting back on the couch is not enough. You need to get out there, live your life, start making plans, and be open to opporutnities!

So, now that you understand why its important and what motivates you in life, grab some magazines and markers and sissors, open up pinterest, and start collecting and gluing everything that represents your dream life onto that board!


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Monday, February 11, 2019

Instagram Live: Links Between Declutter and Mental-Well Being

Recap of Heather and Olivia's Instagram Live in Downloadable PDF

Thank you to all of you who tuned into our Instagram live on February 11th!

We have put together a downloadable PDF summary of the main takeaway point from our Instagram Live!

Download the PDF here!



Please reach out if you have any questions or want to share your experiences with us! You can follow Heather at @heathergorr and find me on Instagram at @detoxdeclutterdesign !



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Sunday, February 3, 2019

So You've Decluttered - Now What?

What to do with all the stuff you no longer want after the decluttering purge


I received the question recently, about any tips I had or suggestions on what to do with all the bags of stuff you are left with at the end of your decluttering marathon. This question was such an obvious topic for a post I couldn't believe I had glazed over it. But if you have never done a really good purge before, or even if you have but now there's just so much stuff, this is a really important topic to get some overall insight on!

In this post, I have provided a few tips on what I suggest you do with your stuff post-purge.

I love this little image of "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs" made into a minimalist 'buyarchy' but it is so fitting to this topic. Instead of how you can buy close, you can look at this pyramid as a way of getting rid of clothes too. It sums up a few of the suggestions for getting rid of your stuff in an ethical and smart way.

Sell 

This one is all about you gaining from this situation. I know it can be difficult to give away items that were expensive but if they are not sparking joy or are a necessity then there is no reason to keep them. Therefore, see if you can sell some of these items. Depending on where you are in the world there are different stores that facilitate this process. They are picky and will not take everything, so do this step first and see how much you can get rid using this method (and how much extra change you can make)!

On the topic of selling, there are some really great organizations who will buy your clothes back from you in order for them to create new items!  One that I think is really great is Re-Spun, a revoluntionary recycling program that will give your old tee a new life. If you want to make some cash off of your old items, this organization will give you $5 for each tee you send them. That, if anything, should movitate you to not just throw your old items in the trash!

Gift 

Not everything we let go of is immediately "broken". Sometimes we just don't use them anymore and what is the use in having them when they just sit in the back of our closet or in a storage box? Ask your friend, roommate, sibling, parent if they could use the things you are getting rid of, and gift it to them. Maybe you just think it would suit them and it can be a birthday or no-reason gift. If it is in good condition, there's no harm in passing it on.

Be careful: You have just done an amazing job decluttering your space. You are in the right mindset and understand your criteria of the items you will intentionally bring into your space from now on. It is important to remember that not everyone has your perspective. Be conscious of the fact that family or friends are not just taking the items because they don't want you throwing them out. This means that the items do not spark joy for them either, but they have grown up with the mindset that things should not be thrown out, or whatever their case may be. That is completely okay, but just be suore to not "force" items on them that they may be taking out of guilt.

Swap 

Organizing a swap party can be a fun activity to do with your friends. The concept is that you all bring a few items and swap whilst having food and drinks ... My preference would be some red wine and a charcuterie board!

Be careful: See above "be careful" comment under the gifts section. Again, you are in a strong mindset right now for intentionally allowing things into your life. Be careful to only take something at a swap that truly sparks joy for you. Don't take it because someone else tells you it looks good on you. Don't take it cause you feel bad. You know that you just purged your house and that you are amazing. Stay in that mindset!

Donate 

I have left "donation" until the end because it is the most common one. At the same time, it depends on where you are donating. Some aid programs who send clothes oversees, generally countries in the global south, to places that already have an excess of items that just build up in a mini-landfill type situation. The toxins from the clothes result in more harm than good as they sit and rot. Check out the Netflix documentary The True Cost if you are intersted in learning more about this topic!

I recommend doing some research into what types of thrift stores and organizations you have in your area. A great idea is a women's shelter or goodwill. My wonderful friend Heather shared her decluttering story with me, after asking where to best bring all the things she was getting rid of. She went to a women's shelter in her area and right when she got there, a woman who had just lost everything showed up and ended up taking most of the items Heather had donated. She shared with Heather that all of these donations was a sign to her that she had made the right choice in finding safety and getting out of a dangerous relationship.

Point is, there are many local places and people that need your help. Look into what is in your area, what they do with donations (i.e. do they have a store, do they send them off somewhere, etc.) to gain some insight in who you will be helping. Such an experience will fill you with warmth and gratitude and encourage you to continue to declutter and donate as appose to throw away.


So there you have it - my recommendations for what you should do with all your stuff after you have decluttered. I also suggest you donate, swap, or sell your items relatively quickly so you don't let them just lay around.

Have you decluttered? Which of these methods did you use to ulimatle get rid of your stuff? Share with me!



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Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Plant-Based Spaghetti Carbonara with Tempeh Bacon and Sweet Potato Spirals

Indulge in this plant-based take on carbonara to your heart's content



This recipe is super quick and easy to make and recreate in your own kitchen for a fast 30-minute weeknight dinner when the last thing you want to do is cook and you wish you were more into meal-prepping. 

The carbonara recipe is the result of playing around with the ingredients in my kitchen and mixing together different recipes. I got the seasoning recipe for the tempeh bacon from my wonderful Christmas present, the Fresh Cookbook. I changed a few things because I did not have all the ingredients in my kitchen so I will add it seasoning mixture to the recipe below as well.

I would 100% recommend including sweet potatoes into your version of this recipe. If you don't have a spiralizer, simply chop the sweet potatoes into little cubes or thin slices. The sweetness is the perfect balance with the savory tempeh bacon. But basically, the sweet potatoes are non-negotiable in my opinion!

So, without further delay, let's make some plant-based pasta! And as a reminder, like all of my recipes, the amounts are for approximately two people or for a single person plus leftovers, so adjust accordingly.

Cashews soaked in hot water, spiraled sweet potatoes, and marinated tempeh bacon

Prep Time: 10 min | Cook Time: 20 min | Total Time: 30 min | Serves: 1-2


Ingredients:

Tempeh Bacon:
  • Half a block of tempeh 
  • 1 Tbsp paprika (smoked paprika would also work well)
  • 1 1/2 Tbsp garlic powder 
  • 1/4 maple syrup 
  • 1/4 soy sauce (or tamari) 
  • 1/4 olive oil

Carbonara Sauce:
  • 1/2 cup plain cashews - soaked for at least 30 mintues.  
  • 1/2-1 cup water 
  • 1/2 cup nut milk of choice
  • 1 Egg (optional) 
  • 1 garlic clove 
  • 1/2 a white onion 
  • 4 Tbsp Olive oil or coconut oil for frying

Other:
  • Pasta of choice - I used a quinoa rice spaghetti and the amount depends on how many people you are cooking for. 
  • 1/2 a sweet potato - peeled and spiraled 
  • Parsley for garnish 
  • Plant-based parmesan for garnish


Instructions:

Prep and Bacon:
  1. Chop a clove of garlic and half an onion. 
  2. Spiral half a sweet potato (or chop into small cubes or slices).  
  3. Make the bacon seasoning by mixing everything together, cut the tempeh into slices, and pour the seasoning over top of the tempeh slices. Let it marinate for at least 10 minutes. 
    • Optional: prepare the marinade the night or morning before and let the tempeh soak longer. 
  4. Once steps 1-3 are prepared, boil water and begin to cook the pasta. Then start with the sauce.
Carbonara Sauce:
  1. Place the garlic, onion, and olive oil/coconut oil in a large pan at medium heat. 
  2. Meanwhile, place the cashews, water, and nut milk of choice in a blender or food processor and blend, to create a thick milk consistency.
  3. If you want, add a beaten egg to the cashew sauce, and mix together.  Set the cashew sauce aside. 
  4. Fry the marinated tempeh bacon pieces in the frying pan until both sides look brown and cooked through. (The purpose of this is to heat the tempeh up and allow the marinade to stick to the tempeh.)
  5. Remove the tempeh strips from the pan onto a plate. Cut the tempeh into small bite-sized pieces. 
  6. In the pan, add the sweet potatoes. If necessary, add a bit of water, nut milk, or oil to prevent sticking. 
  7. Add the cashew sauce to the sweet potatoes and stir around.
  8. Add the tempeh bacon back into the pan and stir. 
  9. At this point, the pasta should be done. Drain the pasta and add it to the pan. 
  10. Stir all the ingredients together until combined and the sauce is covering everything. 
  11. Garnish with some plant-based parmesan and parsley.

Now, all there's left to do is enjoy! Share your meal pictures with me or any alterations you made!



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Tuesday, January 15, 2019

Four Takeaway's form the KonMarie Netflix Series

The new Netflix series Tidying up with Marie Kondo enables all people to begin their tidying up journey, and here are the most important takeaways



Other than the fact that Marie Kondo is the cutest ever in person, the new show on Netflix provides insight into the Konmari method of tidying and organizing that you would otherwise need to read her book to understand. I love her books and highly recommend them but I can understand that not everyone loves decluttering as much as I do and maybe you just want someone to tell you what to do so you can do it and be done. I get that.

The KonMari Method Summarized 

In case you have never heard of this method before or this series, here's a quick summary. The idea of Konmari is that you tidy by category, not by room. In this ordered process, you touch every item you own and determine whether or not it sparks joy, starting with the “easiest” category of identifying joy, clothes, to the hardest, keepsakes.

The general categories - if you want to try it out for yourself without needing to watch the show or read the book -  are as follows:
  1. Clothes
    • Under this category is the Konmari method of folding clothing
  2. Books
  3. Paper
  4. Komono (miscellaneous)
    • A few examples of Komono are electronics, kitchen, office supplies and keepsakes.
The idea is to start with the first category and collect everything in your entire house that falls under that category into one space in one room. For example, starting in the first category, place all of your clothes on your bed. Within each category there are many other things to consider; for example, when tidying your clothes start with tops and dresses etc. and end with shoes. However, for now, I just want to provide you with a general concept of the method in case you have literally never heard of it before!

In the show, Marie Kondo visits individuals or families who need help and guidance tidying and the viewer follows them on their decluttering journey.


Four Main Takeaways from this show and decluttering in general 

So the real reason I wanted to write this post was to just outline the most important takeaways from this show and her method because I think it is able to highlight some very important aspects of decluttering.
  1. Categories.

    Tidying by category helps you understand what sparks joy so that you are conscious of what you want to keep and why and it saves you from keeping things “just in case”. It also forces you to take a good look at everything you own and realize just how much stuff (the shit and the important stuff) you own. Seeing everything laid out in one place puts things in perspective and perhaps you will start to be more picky about what you choose to keep and bring into your life and home in the future.

  2. The folding.

    The folding method allows you to see everything, know what you have, love what you have, use what you have. I shared my feelings on my post on 'colour pallets based wardrobes', where my ultimate goal is to be able to reach into my closet and love (and actually want to wear) whatever piece I pull out.
  3. Treat your belongings with love and respect

    I really love this one, and I had never really considered it until I read her book. In the Konmari method, you thank each piece of clothing that you are giving away. As consumers, we place inherent meaning on our material belongings. This is also one of the reasons why we have become such great consumers! The marketing and consumer world knows this, so they advertise to us by tying meaning and material items together. For this reason, it can also be difficult to let go of our belongings.

    Marie Kondo, therefore, suggests thanking your belongings for whatever purpose they have served you. Maybe you thank a pair of worn out shoes for keeping your feet warm and protected. Maybe you thank a top with its tag still attached for helping you identify what isn't your style. This practice will help you part with your material belongings more easily and treat the ones you do have with respect.
  4. Tidying is a therapeutic journey.

    This is the most important one to me and why I have such a deep passion for decluttering and tidying. Decluttering ends up being a way in which you can really serve a deeper meaning for a person through helping them declutter. Through decluttering,  we have to come face to face with things that we have been holding onto. There are always reasons for why we hold onto material items, and through this process, we have to acknowledge what those reasons are. Sometimes they can be deep, painful and emotional, which in turn allows decluttering to act as a form of therapy to let go of the emotional weight or move on from a situation. Decluttering does not just need to mean the tidying out of clothes but I also use it to refer to the cleaning out of emotions.

    A while back I wrote about how decluttering is directly linked to your emotional state and mental wellness which can be influenced by things you hold onto that might not be serving you anymore. Read the post here, which discusses this more in-depth for letting go of this weight as a year comes to an end, but it can be applied to any day of the year!

Decluttering is so much more than the physical stuff you get rid of and I love the way in which the show is able to highlight that. It provides evidence for the way I discuss decluttering on D3, as you can truly see how individuals work through their emotions and seem to have a physical and emotional weight lifted off their shoulders by the end of their tidying journey.

Have you decluttered or watched this series on Netflix? Do you feel an emotional aspect to the process? Share your insights and journey with me!

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Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Make your New Years Resolutions and Routines work for you

Don't overwhelm yourself with too many resolutions - Follow this simple method to ensure you stick with your goal this year



So often we write out too many new years resolutions and goals that we end up quitting a few weeks in. Trust me, I've been there many times myself. In my opinion there are two main problems with the resolutions we make: 1. We set far too many goals and 2. the goals are too ambitious because we do not provide ourselves with the steps that need to be taken or the quantitative means by which we plan to achieve them.

Two Step Method to Creating your Resolutions 


Step 1: Write out all your goals but then choose ONE that you consider top priority.

We cannot focus on everything at once, and often when we create too many new years resolutions or goals we expect ourselves to achieve that year we are unable to stick to them and that leaves us feeling defeated. Priority was a singular word until the beginning 21st century when it became the plural or "priorities." A priority can only be ONE thing because it is a priority! That means "most important." If you pick just one, the absolute most important goal, you will be able to focus all your energy on that single overarching priority and slowly everything I'll start to fall into place.


Step 2: Plan. Figure out what you need to be doing to start working towards that single goal and how you intend to measure it.

What is your chosen goal? What does your life look like as you work towards that goal? What does your life look like with the success of that goal? Write it all out!

Now, what are the sub-goals you can reach in working towards that big main goal? How much time and how often do you need to put focus and energy towards this goal? Make your goal measurable! Give yourself weekly to-dos, daily to-dos, or milestone marks so that you have a plan for how you will work towards the goal.

Now, the way you set this up is different for each goal and depends on the size and weight of the goal. If you want to spend more time with your kids and part of that is being home with them after school for dinner 3 times a week, then plan those days and schedule them in your calendar. Same with wanting to lose 5kg. Or even if you just want to exercise more. Plan what days, what time, what workouts, and then mark it in your calendar. Other bigger goals, like starting a business, will need more goal planning and goal measuring. A clear calendar plan, as well as milestone marks, may work best for you.

The "Everything will fall into place" mentality

I mentioned this at the end of step 1. This is important. When you can focus all of your energy toward your top priority goal then your other goals will follow. If you have a goal to lose 5kg, but also to spend more time with your kids, but also to make an hour for self-care on Sundays, but also to launch your new business, you will at least feel extremely stressed trying to achieve them all and do them all perfectly. Don't get me wrong, it is fantastic to write out your goals because it outlines how you want your life to be. But it will be difficult to give each goal all your energy when you have multiple to focus on.

Here's my example. Last year, I wanted to put more energy towards my blog. I did not realize that Instagram would be the way in for me. As I worked on my blog and shared posts on Instagram, I started connecting with people and my "brand" of my Instagram page shifted from personal to blog focused. It was fantastic to see and that is not something that was part of my goals. Additionally, people on Instagram started to reach out and we connected, creating a community and finding ways to elaborate. Everything started influencing the next thing and it began to snowball. Even if you have all goals on there of wanting to spend more time with family and also launching your business, maybe you end up realizing that launching your business from home does allow you more time with your family! On the other hand, if you are trying to launch your business and simultaneously incorporate a workout routine, it may be difficult to do either.

Work hard towards your one goal and allow the other things to find their place once you begin to master the main priority.

You can only show up for yourself when you give yourself a clear meaning of what "showing up" means

The most important thing to remember when creating resolutions is making them achievable. Yes, you want to challenge yourself and push yourself, but there are some things you cannot control. It is also important to understand the difference between goals and dreams. You should dream BIG! See yourself opening your own store, or running your business, or moving across the world. Imagine your best possible life and then dream even bigger!

Goals on the other hand, as the smaller to-do's that you can do daily that help you work towards your dreams. If you are confusing your dream with your goal, then you will always feel like you are falling short. Most dreams are a journey that happens over years of hard work. To stay motivated, you need to find the smaller wins in your day to day life or monthly achievements.

I'd love to hear what your goals are and how you are planning (literally) to reach them!  Share with me in the comments below or reach out to me on Instagram!




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Thursday, December 27, 2018

Why and what you need to declutter before the new year

What are you willing to let go of in order to start the new year right?

Prevent yourself from living in the past

We are leaving yet another year behind us and the next stands, daunting, at our front doors. I have always been emotionally attached to time. I would characterize myself as a sensitive person and so I have often caught myself stuck thinking about the past, how time fast times, and how it literally feels like just yesterday that this particular memory happened. What I'm talking about right now are the happy feelings we get from thinking about heart-warming past memories. In these cases, we may be unwilling to acknowledge difficulties that are happening in our present lives, whether or not we recognize them as problems.

Physical items can mirror our emotional state

The alternative scenario is, that your past has been difficult and as much as you tried to persevere, it is so hard to allow yourself to move on or let go of the emotional weight. Often times this can be tied into the material weight you are holding onto. Material items can say a lot about us and simultaneously they can emotionally affect us. The way we treat our material belongings - hoard them, clutter them - says something about us. Are we holding onto material items because we are unwilling to let go of emotions of resentment or hurt? Are we reorganizing crap (instead of getting rid of it) because we are simply unaware of the fact that it represents the way we have been reorganizing our goals, without ever really doing anything about them?

If you feel that this connection between your physical space and your mental state explains the messy situation you are currently in, do not fret! I have outlined three small steps you can take to begin to declutter and create order moving forward into the new year.

Reflect on your year first  

Before we even begin looking at our material belongings, lets first look back on this year. What was this year like for you overall? Without immediately labeling it "good" or "bad," what are a few emotions that come up? Perhaps feelings of courage or strength arise. Maybe love or hurt. Before we can even begin to connect material belongings to our emotional experiences and our past, we need to recognize what happened this past year and most importantly, what has been holding us back.

Ask yourself that question. What is holding me back? What happened this year that impacted me in some way? How did I change? Did something happen that shifted my focus? Did I do something that I need to take responsibility for?

There are so many things, little or big, that hold us back from moving forward because we don't deal with them. We have to deal with our shit before we can freely move forward; otherwise, your shit will pile up and start blocking your way. You will be building a wall in front of yourself made of your emotional stuff and your material stuff.

Take 10 minutes right now. Set a timer and reflect on your year. Be really honest with yourself. You have got to confront what has happened to you or what you have done in order to truly move on and grow from it.

Next, Declutter your material items

With this new year slowly creeping up, I want you to ask yourself this: what material items can I declutter and let go of in my life?

This first step is all about recognizing the excess of clothes, products, and goods that you have that are no longer serving you. This does not need to be a huge and complete decluttering process, but it can include the first few things that came to mind when I asked the question above. Maybe you've known that those items have served their purpose for you and it is now time to let them go. What comes to mind right now? Go get it and then let it go. If you don't feel like you have anything do declutter, take 30 minutes and reorganize a drawer in your closet (or maybe the whole closet!). I guarantee you will be confronted with items that you no longer spark joy or are keeping you in the past, preventing you from moving forward.

Before we move onto the next step, reflect. Have there been any material items created a negative emotional connection? Did you perhaps become calmer after organizing a bookshelf or a drawer? Pay attention to the mental shifts that are happening as you let go of items or a mess that is not serving you.

Now, declutter your goals 

What can you release yourself from? Sometimes we create goals and routines that are far too ambitious and we cannot give them enough focus because they are not our priorities. They may have sounded cool, but they weren't broken down into manageable sub-goals, or maybe they don't light a fire within you anymore.

Get rid of any goal or project that no longer aligns with your goals, who you are right now, or where you want to go! Allow yourself to let go of these past to-do's that are no longer a priority for you. Feel the release of letting them go. You do not need to do everything, and decluttering goals because they no longer serve you is not failure - it's called self-care.

Take it inside 

Now take your reflection, the stuff you decluttered, and the goals you let go of, and let's take a trip into your emotional self. What emotional realizations did you have from decluttering your space or your goals? What emotions do you need to deal with now that you have reflected on your year? How do you need to show up for yourself right now, in order to let all the emotions you have been carrying with you go?

What are the resentments, guilt, and anger you are willing to let go of? Is there shame or embarrassment you can declutter from yourself? If there is someone you need to forgive (even yourself), now is the time.

What are stories that you are telling yourself? What are the false beliefs that are becoming embedded in your mind because you tell yourself over and over that you are too young or too old or not successful or too poor or not lovable or emotionally unavailable? Let go of all of the disempowering stories you tell yourself. Would you say any of these stories to your best friend? Would you try and tear them down the way you have been doing to yourself?

Confront and release the negative emotions, situations, and stories that you have been holding onto. You will not need them from here on out as you enter this new year.

Do whatever works best for you in order to declutter your emotions. Write out the situations and at the end forgive or state how you will no longer continue this practice in the future. Maybe you need to write up everything you need to let go of on individual sheets so you can tear them up or burn them. Maybe you need to take a bath and wash them all away. Do whatever you feel will work best to help you declutter.

I think it's important to add that some emotions need to be worked through with a professional and/or it may take more than a day to let them go. If that is your case, that is okay too. This exercise will serve as a good starting point and the fact that you clicked to read this post shows that you are already in the mindset of healing and decluttering.

Why decluttering mind and space together is so important

The way we deal with emotions or past situations can often show itself through the material items we treasure (or don't) and the way we handle our possessions. So first and foremost, this practice will help you realize what you have been holding onto that is affecting you emotionally in order to help you let go of it.

Second, recognizing the mental and emotional connection to our physical belongings and the declutter that can be done for both spaces, will encourage more intentionality in the future. Hopefully, the four categories of reflecting, decluttering material items, decluttering goals, and confronting emotions and beliefs will stay with you as you move forward. That way, you can be conscious of what you bring into your life or know when something needs to go because it has begun emotionally impacting you.

With that, I will leave you until next year. Thank you to everyone who has joined me on this journey or consistently read and visited D3. It means the world to me and I love sharing on this platform.

A very happy new year!




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Tuesday, December 18, 2018

The importance of a colour palette based wardrobe

One way to own less and ensure that everything matches is to build your wardrobe around a chosen colour palette, keeping your wardrobe simple and decluttered


On my decluttering journey of simplifying, I have purged my closet many times. I purged it after I watched The Minimalist's documentary and again after I read The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by following the Konmari method. I purged and decluttered my childhood belongings when I went home to my mom's house and then again at my dad's. When I got back home, I had started establishing my own method of tidying and simplifying, and I decluttered once again. I began creating my own version of what minimalism meant to me and continued to explore what belongings sparked joy and in turn, I started practicing conscious consumption. 

Colour Scheme Realization

A clients closet after purging and decluttering: earth tones, white, black, and maroon

The last and final time I decluttered my closet, I came to a realization; the clothes that sparked joy and I had chosen to keep all followed somewhat of a colour scheme. I realized the colour that suited me best was a mauve taupe like purple and many of the clothes I loved and felt great wearing had that colour in them or went well with that colour. The rest of my clothes followed a colour scheme of earth tones, pinks, oranges, and of course, black. What can I say, I love the basic natural tones and then lots of black!

Anyways. The point is that a clear colour scheme formed for me and since then, I have continued to base my wardrobe around those colours. The practice of sticking to a colour scheme has encouraged me to become a more conscious consumer, as I now only buy pieces that fit with my chosen colours and I know what colours fit me best. 

The Goal - Pick out an item with your eyes closed, and love it! 

When I started putting my clothes back into my closet after my last purge, I was able to colour code them so easily because all the colours fit together. I also loved looking at my closet and picking out outfits because I could literally close my eyes, reach into my closet, pull out any top and want to wear it! In the past, it would take me forever to get dressed because I didn't truly love everything I owned. If I did this "pick a random top" test back then, the chances of me wanting to wear it would have been slim. 

I have continued to keep this goal in mind, it has allowed me to become a more conscious consumer. I don't want to ruin the beautiful collection and colour set-up that I have going on, so I am very careful with what I choose to bring into my closet. To pass the wardrobe test, the item needs to truly spark joy and fit into what I have identified as my style and colours.

Remember, there are a million beautiful things out there; that doesn't mean they fit to your concept of beauty. Be mindful of what you bring into your space.

A shot of my closet; all the colours match with the sweaters in the heading photo of this post!

A Wardrobe Colour Scheme results in a Simplified Closet

My wardrobe had decreased significantly after my final purge and I am in love with the results. I am sharing this with you because I believe that one major method to creating a wardrobe that sparks joy and becoming a conscious consumer, is to create a structure for the things you buy. Determining what your colours are, what colours you love, and what looks good on you, will prevent you from purchasing items that don't spark joy or fit the rest of your style.

Additionally, you may end up having less than before even though it may not feel that way. Hear me out - if everything in your closet falls under a colour scheme, then at least 80% of the pieces in your closet should match (depending on what your chosen colour scheme is). When everything matches, you really don't need a lot of pieces to create multiple different outfits. This will also help with packing, as you can create more outfits from fewer items.

One colour scheme approach is using "colour families" instead of just single colours, to give yourself wriggle room. This approach is about helping you find focus and direction in your wardrobe, instead of enforcing a feeling of confinement.

Another client closet - colour scheme does not need to imply having lots of colour. If you like the neutrals, blacks, and whites, stick to those.

The Final Purge

I have been referring to my last closet decluttering as my "final purge." This is because this realization of what clothes and colours I love has helped me limit the amount of items I buy that are short-term fills. By this, I mean that we live in a consumer society where deals and access amounts of items are available to us, and in turn, we tend to buy things we don't absolutely love. I am hopeful that the structure of a specific colour scheme will help me maintain a minimal wardrobe of pieces I love and that are long-lasting.

Less is more. This client put her clothes she loved back into her closet after purging and then did not want to ruin the simplicity of the closet by adding items she didn't fully love. Be picky! Use this method to help identify your colour scheme.

Progress not perfection

Now that you have read all this information, here is the most important takeaway: don't worry about making it perfect. My wardrobe is still far from perfect and I could probably still consume less and "want" less. It's really all about progress; I have become a more conscious consumer and I have created and continue the process of creating a wardrobe that is sustainable, functional and represents me. Don't stress about the little things. Don't worry if you have a shirt you love but that doesn't fit into the rest of your colour scheme. That's okay! If you love it, keep it! It's that simple ... so don't over complicate! 

Reach out! 

Are you interested in purging your closet? Or have you been purging and now want to find your colour scheme around which to build your wardrobe? Or do you have questions about what a conscious consumerism is or tips on how to become a more conscious consumer? Reach out to me! Send me an email, leave a comment, or DM me on Instagram! I would be so happy to hear from you!




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Sunday, December 9, 2018

Stear clear of stress and cramming with these insights on time managment


With final exams right around the corner, you will want to read these time management and organizational tips

The winter break is on the horizon, midterms have only just finished (thanks Western!), and the end of the semester has suddenly snuck up on students. Across campus, students are cramming for exams, and swearing they will do anything to not be cramming next exam period.

The cramming struggle can only be solved by the one thing your parents always nagged you about: time management skills. It may have been annoying at the time, but now you realize that if you plan ahead you can rest well knowing your assignments will be handed in on time.

Coming into university life is an adjustment, but over the years, students are able to figure out what professors want and how to best go about getting all their work done. If you are new to the university workload, or just simply done with trying to decode why your professors insist on making impossible exam questions, this one’s for you.

Maybe a bit late now as we border on December, but here are the best time management methods

If you are currently cramming and don’t have time to read the full length of all the tips, let’s make a long story short: plan ahead, use a planner, write notes in a planner, plan what’s coming up, and then plan some more!

Students and experts alike advocate for using some method of calendar and task planning. “I find that the best way for organizing my studying is to really plan out in advance what I have ahead of me. I do that with my notebook planner and with a calendar on my wall,” Lucas Heine, a second-year BMOS student, says. Being able to visualize his deadlines helps him stay focused and decreases stress.

Adrianne Disimoni, a fourth-year criminology student, also uses a whiteboard on her wall for an overview of upcoming deadlines. “I use two calendars. One is a day planner and the other is the computer calendar to allow notifications for upcoming tasks and assignments.”

If you are new to this, it is important to keep it simple and only use one tool for planning. I suggest using a physical planner because it gives you the ability to write down to-dos and physically cross them off. 

Sarah Skwira, a fourth-year student double majoring in environmental health and medical science, learned from her cramming experience for a chemistry exam in first-year. “I had a bio exam the day before and prioritized that, so I ended up really taking the ‘L’ on the chemistry one. Needless to say there was a ‘let’s forget this happened’ party afterwards.”

Now she also encourages having a schedule or a calendar for deadlines. “This saves so much stress. When you do a little bit each day, you will never feel the need to cram or stress about leaving things to the last minute,” she says. “Your brain also can’t absorb information as well when you are stressed.”

If you don’t have one already, your first to-do on your new to-do list, is to go get a wall calendar or a planner or open that iCal app that’s just hanging out in your dock, and put them to work!

Morning Motivation … but I went out last night!

Mornings are the enemy and bane of most people’s existence. Especially in the university lifestyle where there is no 9 am job keeping tabs on you, it’s easy to sleep in until your heart's content.

Disimoni and Skwira have recognized that their motivation and focus is much greater in the morning. “I get up early and go to bed early and I do most of my work in the earlier part of the day because of that,” Skwira says. “Working late into the night or in loud spaces is not something that worked for me,” she adds.

For others, mornings are a definite no-go. “Getting up stupidly early and trying to get a bunch of stuff done has not worked for me,” Heine says. “If forcing yourself to get up will just make you unproductive, don’t do it.”

Generally, people are either night owls or early birds.

“I work well when it’s dark out,” Lucas says. Lucas can be found studying on the 5th floor of Weldon Library where there are no windows. If you too are a night owl vampire, join him, because he admits it gets depressing after a while.

Identify your habits – when and where do you work best? Determine your habit for focusing and create your own personalized routine. Maybe sleeping in is in the cards for you after all!

Make Prioritizing into a Meal

The key to time management success does not come from solely writing deadlines down. You actually need to do the work. The best way to demolish all your assignments and exams, is to break them into bite-sized pieces.

Oliver ranks the priority of his to-do’s depending on when each task is due. “Don’t just plan to do five hours of ‘studying,’” Oliver says. “I try to break it down into specific subjects and time periods; mine are ‘make study notes, study notes, practice questions, study difficult or wrong answers’, and so on.”

Creating sub-tasks under one bigger task helps increase efficiency and decreases feelings of overwhelm.

After Skwira’s stressful chemistry exam back in first-year, she now organizes her time based on what requires the most studying: “The work that requires more cognitive energy will be done earlier in the day. Other work that is more passive I leave for the evenings.”

Make your to-do’s into a meal: Know what’s for breakfast lunch and dinner, and cut each piece of food down into chewable bites. See, fun analogies make the dread of studying a bit better already! You are welcome.

Good is Good Enough

This advice is short and sweet. As a university student, there is so much going on with assignments, exams, clubs, friends, family, and other jobs as well. Sometimes, you just need to do things to get them done.          
           
Oliver suggests making a framework of how long you intend to spend on each task and subtask after you’ve prioritized them. He adds that the most important thing is to not spend more time than is needed on any given task. “When the to-do list feels miles long, done is better than perfect.”

If you are determined to do everything absolutely perfectly in life, here’s the big secret: you will be spending a lot of unnecessary time on things that might not get you anywhere. Spend forever on your thesis, but just write the damn forum post already!

Beware and prepare (again): Other difficulties you might encounter that no one tells you about

1.     “Adulting” gets real

This happens during a stressful exam period when you realize what the concept “adulting” really is. In other words, you finally appreciate everything your parents did for you because you have to plan so much more than just your school work.

Adrianne says she also uses her day planner for personal tasks like meal planning and grocery shopping. This part of student life quickly becomes even more frustrating when you have to carry your close to ripping plastic grocery bags on the bus and through the snow. Without nourishing meals, focusing will become difficult, so use your new found love for planning and have your meals set for that week of study grind time.

2.     Accept and that you will not be able to stay on top of everything

With all the planning and assignments, there is no way you will be able to wait till you’ve finished everything to take your break. It seems as though professors are worried you might have too much free time, so they just pile up some extra assignments. “When you plan ahead and know your schedule, you will legitimately have time for a break,” says Disimoni.  

Give yourself breaks! Watch a show. Read a book. Hang out with friends. Call your mom. Reward yourself for all your planning and hard work. Just don’t wait until you have finished everything; that won’t happen until your semester is done, and that’s a promise.

3.     Sleep is non-negotiable

As hard as it may be with parties, dorm room hangouts, and all-nighters, prioritizing sleep is a must. “I have realized how important sleep is in being productive,” Oliver says. “Decide how many hours of sleep you need and plan it into your study schedule.” That beauty rest is helping you with more than just looks.  

As the exam season nears think of all the Christmas cheer, that is to come when you are done, planning and studying like a crazy one! 


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