Wednesday, April 17, 2019

The Decluttered Intentions Podcast - Ep 1: Introduction

Welcome to the Decluttered Intensions Podcast 

My "Why"

I have published the pilot episode of a podcast I have created called Decluttered Intentions. Decluttering is something that I am incredibly passionate about and doing this podcast allowed me to understand why I hold it so close to my heart. Similar with the Instagram Live I did a few months back with my dear friend Heather, talking about my experience of decluttereing allowed me to realize why this is important to me.

On this podcast, I share my personal experience of the impact decluttering has had on my life and how it led me to minimalism. I talk about the ways in which our physical space and belongings can effect our lives, and I share how becoming more concious of what you bring into your life can help you live more intentionally. Choosing what you want and what you don't want can be applied to all all areas of your life, not just your physical belongings. Ultimatley, letting go of what is not serving you will allow you to critically evaluate what is importnat to you and only allow that into your life which adds value.

Overview of the Podcast 

Decuttered intentions is the podcast about finding your way to an intentional life through decluttereing as a young adult. There is so much change happening as we find our own way after going out into the world on our own... but this could also be the perfect time to start creating the life you want!

In this pilot episode, I introduce the topics of delcuttering and minialism, which will be the basis of the entire podcast sereis. Most importantly, I discuss the role of decluttereing and minimalism in intentional living.

Topics Dicussed:
  • My story about where my passion for decluttering and minimalism came from
  • Decluttering as a two-fold process
  • Minimalism - debunking stereotypes 
  • Decluttering an dminimalism in relation to living with intention
  • Takeaway throughts and exercise

Listen to The Decluttered Intentions Podcast here!

https://soundcloud.com/olivia-heine-410793902/decluttered-intentions-podcast-introduction-ep-1

Intersted in hearing more of Decluttered Intentions? Let me know!

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Monday, February 11, 2019

Instagram Live: Links Between Declutter and Mental-Well Being

Recap of Heather and Olivia's Instagram Live in Downloadable PDF

Thank you to all of you who tuned into our Instagram live on February 11th!

We have put together a downloadable PDF summary of the main takeaway point from our Instagram Live!

Download the PDF here!



Please reach out if you have any questions or want to share your experiences with us! You can follow Heather at @heathergorr and find me on Instagram at @detoxdeclutterdesign !



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Sunday, February 3, 2019

So You've Decluttered - Now What?

What to do with all the stuff you no longer want after the decluttering purge


I received the question recently, about any tips I had or suggestions on what to do with all the bags of stuff you are left with at the end of your decluttering marathon. This question was such an obvious topic for a post I couldn't believe I had glazed over it. But if you have never done a really good purge before, or even if you have but now there's just so much stuff, this is a really important topic to get some overall insight on!

In this post, I have provided a few tips on what I suggest you do with your stuff post-purge.

I love this little image of "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs" made into a minimalist 'buyarchy' but it is so fitting to this topic. Instead of how you can buy close, you can look at this pyramid as a way of getting rid of clothes too. It sums up a few of the suggestions for getting rid of your stuff in an ethical and smart way.

Sell 

This one is all about you gaining from this situation. I know it can be difficult to give away items that were expensive but if they are not sparking joy or are a necessity then there is no reason to keep them. Therefore, see if you can sell some of these items. Depending on where you are in the world there are different stores that facilitate this process. They are picky and will not take everything, so do this step first and see how much you can get rid using this method (and how much extra change you can make)!

On the topic of selling, there are some really great organizations who will buy your clothes back from you in order for them to create new items!  One that I think is really great is Re-Spun, a revoluntionary recycling program that will give your old tee a new life. If you want to make some cash off of your old items, this organization will give you $5 for each tee you send them. That, if anything, should movitate you to not just throw your old items in the trash!

Gift 

Not everything we let go of is immediately "broken". Sometimes we just don't use them anymore and what is the use in having them when they just sit in the back of our closet or in a storage box? Ask your friend, roommate, sibling, parent if they could use the things you are getting rid of, and gift it to them. Maybe you just think it would suit them and it can be a birthday or no-reason gift. If it is in good condition, there's no harm in passing it on.

Be careful: You have just done an amazing job decluttering your space. You are in the right mindset and understand your criteria of the items you will intentionally bring into your space from now on. It is important to remember that not everyone has your perspective. Be conscious of the fact that family or friends are not just taking the items because they don't want you throwing them out. This means that the items do not spark joy for them either, but they have grown up with the mindset that things should not be thrown out, or whatever their case may be. That is completely okay, but just be suore to not "force" items on them that they may be taking out of guilt.

Swap 

Organizing a swap party can be a fun activity to do with your friends. The concept is that you all bring a few items and swap whilst having food and drinks ... My preference would be some red wine and a charcuterie board!

Be careful: See above "be careful" comment under the gifts section. Again, you are in a strong mindset right now for intentionally allowing things into your life. Be careful to only take something at a swap that truly sparks joy for you. Don't take it because someone else tells you it looks good on you. Don't take it cause you feel bad. You know that you just purged your house and that you are amazing. Stay in that mindset!

Donate 

I have left "donation" until the end because it is the most common one. At the same time, it depends on where you are donating. Some aid programs who send clothes oversees, generally countries in the global south, to places that already have an excess of items that just build up in a mini-landfill type situation. The toxins from the clothes result in more harm than good as they sit and rot. Check out the Netflix documentary The True Cost if you are intersted in learning more about this topic!

I recommend doing some research into what types of thrift stores and organizations you have in your area. A great idea is a women's shelter or goodwill. My wonderful friend Heather shared her decluttering story with me, after asking where to best bring all the things she was getting rid of. She went to a women's shelter in her area and right when she got there, a woman who had just lost everything showed up and ended up taking most of the items Heather had donated. She shared with Heather that all of these donations was a sign to her that she had made the right choice in finding safety and getting out of a dangerous relationship.

Point is, there are many local places and people that need your help. Look into what is in your area, what they do with donations (i.e. do they have a store, do they send them off somewhere, etc.) to gain some insight in who you will be helping. Such an experience will fill you with warmth and gratitude and encourage you to continue to declutter and donate as appose to throw away.


So there you have it - my recommendations for what you should do with all your stuff after you have decluttered. I also suggest you donate, swap, or sell your items relatively quickly so you don't let them just lay around.

Have you decluttered? Which of these methods did you use to ulimatle get rid of your stuff? Share with me!



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Tuesday, January 15, 2019

Four Takeaway's form the KonMarie Netflix Series

The new Netflix series Tidying up with Marie Kondo enables all people to begin their tidying up journey, and here are the most important takeaways



Other than the fact that Marie Kondo is the cutest ever in person, the new show on Netflix provides insight into the Konmari method of tidying and organizing that you would otherwise need to read her book to understand. I love her books and highly recommend them but I can understand that not everyone loves decluttering as much as I do and maybe you just want someone to tell you what to do so you can do it and be done. I get that.

The KonMari Method Summarized 

In case you have never heard of this method before or this series, here's a quick summary. The idea of Konmari is that you tidy by category, not by room. In this ordered process, you touch every item you own and determine whether or not it sparks joy, starting with the “easiest” category of identifying joy, clothes, to the hardest, keepsakes.

The general categories - if you want to try it out for yourself without needing to watch the show or read the book -  are as follows:
  1. Clothes
    • Under this category is the Konmari method of folding clothing
  2. Books
  3. Paper
  4. Komono (miscellaneous)
    • A few examples of Komono are electronics, kitchen, office supplies and keepsakes.
The idea is to start with the first category and collect everything in your entire house that falls under that category into one space in one room. For example, starting in the first category, place all of your clothes on your bed. Within each category there are many other things to consider; for example, when tidying your clothes start with tops and dresses etc. and end with shoes. However, for now, I just want to provide you with a general concept of the method in case you have literally never heard of it before!

In the show, Marie Kondo visits individuals or families who need help and guidance tidying and the viewer follows them on their decluttering journey.


Four Main Takeaways from this show and decluttering in general 

So the real reason I wanted to write this post was to just outline the most important takeaways from this show and her method because I think it is able to highlight some very important aspects of decluttering.
  1. Categories.

    Tidying by category helps you understand what sparks joy so that you are conscious of what you want to keep and why and it saves you from keeping things “just in case”. It also forces you to take a good look at everything you own and realize just how much stuff (the shit and the important stuff) you own. Seeing everything laid out in one place puts things in perspective and perhaps you will start to be more picky about what you choose to keep and bring into your life and home in the future.

  2. The folding.

    The folding method allows you to see everything, know what you have, love what you have, use what you have. I shared my feelings on my post on 'colour pallets based wardrobes', where my ultimate goal is to be able to reach into my closet and love (and actually want to wear) whatever piece I pull out.
  3. Treat your belongings with love and respect

    I really love this one, and I had never really considered it until I read her book. In the Konmari method, you thank each piece of clothing that you are giving away. As consumers, we place inherent meaning on our material belongings. This is also one of the reasons why we have become such great consumers! The marketing and consumer world knows this, so they advertise to us by tying meaning and material items together. For this reason, it can also be difficult to let go of our belongings.

    Marie Kondo, therefore, suggests thanking your belongings for whatever purpose they have served you. Maybe you thank a pair of worn out shoes for keeping your feet warm and protected. Maybe you thank a top with its tag still attached for helping you identify what isn't your style. This practice will help you part with your material belongings more easily and treat the ones you do have with respect.
  4. Tidying is a therapeutic journey.

    This is the most important one to me and why I have such a deep passion for decluttering and tidying. Decluttering ends up being a way in which you can really serve a deeper meaning for a person through helping them declutter. Through decluttering,  we have to come face to face with things that we have been holding onto. There are always reasons for why we hold onto material items, and through this process, we have to acknowledge what those reasons are. Sometimes they can be deep, painful and emotional, which in turn allows decluttering to act as a form of therapy to let go of the emotional weight or move on from a situation. Decluttering does not just need to mean the tidying out of clothes but I also use it to refer to the cleaning out of emotions.

    A while back I wrote about how decluttering is directly linked to your emotional state and mental wellness which can be influenced by things you hold onto that might not be serving you anymore. Read the post here, which discusses this more in-depth for letting go of this weight as a year comes to an end, but it can be applied to any day of the year!

Decluttering is so much more than the physical stuff you get rid of and I love the way in which the show is able to highlight that. It provides evidence for the way I discuss decluttering on D3, as you can truly see how individuals work through their emotions and seem to have a physical and emotional weight lifted off their shoulders by the end of their tidying journey.

Have you decluttered or watched this series on Netflix? Do you feel an emotional aspect to the process? Share your insights and journey with me!

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Thursday, December 27, 2018

Why and what you need to declutter before the new year

What are you willing to let go of in order to start the new year right?

Prevent yourself from living in the past

We are leaving yet another year behind us and the next stands, daunting, at our front doors. I have always been emotionally attached to time. I would characterize myself as a sensitive person and so I have often caught myself stuck thinking about the past, how time fast times, and how it literally feels like just yesterday that this particular memory happened. What I'm talking about right now are the happy feelings we get from thinking about heart-warming past memories. In these cases, we may be unwilling to acknowledge difficulties that are happening in our present lives, whether or not we recognize them as problems.

Physical items can mirror our emotional state

The alternative scenario is, that your past has been difficult and as much as you tried to persevere, it is so hard to allow yourself to move on or let go of the emotional weight. Often times this can be tied into the material weight you are holding onto. Material items can say a lot about us and simultaneously they can emotionally affect us. The way we treat our material belongings - hoard them, clutter them - says something about us. Are we holding onto material items because we are unwilling to let go of emotions of resentment or hurt? Are we reorganizing crap (instead of getting rid of it) because we are simply unaware of the fact that it represents the way we have been reorganizing our goals, without ever really doing anything about them?

If you feel that this connection between your physical space and your mental state explains the messy situation you are currently in, do not fret! I have outlined three small steps you can take to begin to declutter and create order moving forward into the new year.

Reflect on your year first  

Before we even begin looking at our material belongings, lets first look back on this year. What was this year like for you overall? Without immediately labeling it "good" or "bad," what are a few emotions that come up? Perhaps feelings of courage or strength arise. Maybe love or hurt. Before we can even begin to connect material belongings to our emotional experiences and our past, we need to recognize what happened this past year and most importantly, what has been holding us back.

Ask yourself that question. What is holding me back? What happened this year that impacted me in some way? How did I change? Did something happen that shifted my focus? Did I do something that I need to take responsibility for?

There are so many things, little or big, that hold us back from moving forward because we don't deal with them. We have to deal with our shit before we can freely move forward; otherwise, your shit will pile up and start blocking your way. You will be building a wall in front of yourself made of your emotional stuff and your material stuff.

Take 10 minutes right now. Set a timer and reflect on your year. Be really honest with yourself. You have got to confront what has happened to you or what you have done in order to truly move on and grow from it.

Next, Declutter your material items

With this new year slowly creeping up, I want you to ask yourself this: what material items can I declutter and let go of in my life?

This first step is all about recognizing the excess of clothes, products, and goods that you have that are no longer serving you. This does not need to be a huge and complete decluttering process, but it can include the first few things that came to mind when I asked the question above. Maybe you've known that those items have served their purpose for you and it is now time to let them go. What comes to mind right now? Go get it and then let it go. If you don't feel like you have anything do declutter, take 30 minutes and reorganize a drawer in your closet (or maybe the whole closet!). I guarantee you will be confronted with items that you no longer spark joy or are keeping you in the past, preventing you from moving forward.

Before we move onto the next step, reflect. Have there been any material items created a negative emotional connection? Did you perhaps become calmer after organizing a bookshelf or a drawer? Pay attention to the mental shifts that are happening as you let go of items or a mess that is not serving you.

Now, declutter your goals 

What can you release yourself from? Sometimes we create goals and routines that are far too ambitious and we cannot give them enough focus because they are not our priorities. They may have sounded cool, but they weren't broken down into manageable sub-goals, or maybe they don't light a fire within you anymore.

Get rid of any goal or project that no longer aligns with your goals, who you are right now, or where you want to go! Allow yourself to let go of these past to-do's that are no longer a priority for you. Feel the release of letting them go. You do not need to do everything, and decluttering goals because they no longer serve you is not failure - it's called self-care.

Take it inside 

Now take your reflection, the stuff you decluttered, and the goals you let go of, and let's take a trip into your emotional self. What emotional realizations did you have from decluttering your space or your goals? What emotions do you need to deal with now that you have reflected on your year? How do you need to show up for yourself right now, in order to let all the emotions you have been carrying with you go?

What are the resentments, guilt, and anger you are willing to let go of? Is there shame or embarrassment you can declutter from yourself? If there is someone you need to forgive (even yourself), now is the time.

What are stories that you are telling yourself? What are the false beliefs that are becoming embedded in your mind because you tell yourself over and over that you are too young or too old or not successful or too poor or not lovable or emotionally unavailable? Let go of all of the disempowering stories you tell yourself. Would you say any of these stories to your best friend? Would you try and tear them down the way you have been doing to yourself?

Confront and release the negative emotions, situations, and stories that you have been holding onto. You will not need them from here on out as you enter this new year.

Do whatever works best for you in order to declutter your emotions. Write out the situations and at the end forgive or state how you will no longer continue this practice in the future. Maybe you need to write up everything you need to let go of on individual sheets so you can tear them up or burn them. Maybe you need to take a bath and wash them all away. Do whatever you feel will work best to help you declutter.

I think it's important to add that some emotions need to be worked through with a professional and/or it may take more than a day to let them go. If that is your case, that is okay too. This exercise will serve as a good starting point and the fact that you clicked to read this post shows that you are already in the mindset of healing and decluttering.

Why decluttering mind and space together is so important

The way we deal with emotions or past situations can often show itself through the material items we treasure (or don't) and the way we handle our possessions. So first and foremost, this practice will help you realize what you have been holding onto that is affecting you emotionally in order to help you let go of it.

Second, recognizing the mental and emotional connection to our physical belongings and the declutter that can be done for both spaces, will encourage more intentionality in the future. Hopefully, the four categories of reflecting, decluttering material items, decluttering goals, and confronting emotions and beliefs will stay with you as you move forward. That way, you can be conscious of what you bring into your life or know when something needs to go because it has begun emotionally impacting you.

With that, I will leave you until next year. Thank you to everyone who has joined me on this journey or consistently read and visited D3. It means the world to me and I love sharing on this platform.

A very happy new year!




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Tuesday, December 18, 2018

The importance of a colour palette based wardrobe

One way to own less and ensure that everything matches is to build your wardrobe around a chosen colour palette, keeping your wardrobe simple and decluttered


On my decluttering journey of simplifying, I have purged my closet many times. I purged it after I watched The Minimalist's documentary and again after I read The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by following the Konmari method. I purged and decluttered my childhood belongings when I went home to my mom's house and then again at my dad's. When I got back home, I had started establishing my own method of tidying and simplifying, and I decluttered once again. I began creating my own version of what minimalism meant to me and continued to explore what belongings sparked joy and in turn, I started practicing conscious consumption. 

Colour Scheme Realization

A clients closet after purging and decluttering: earth tones, white, black, and maroon

The last and final time I decluttered my closet, I came to a realization; the clothes that sparked joy and I had chosen to keep all followed somewhat of a colour scheme. I realized the colour that suited me best was a mauve taupe like purple and many of the clothes I loved and felt great wearing had that colour in them or went well with that colour. The rest of my clothes followed a colour scheme of earth tones, pinks, oranges, and of course, black. What can I say, I love the basic natural tones and then lots of black!

Anyways. The point is that a clear colour scheme formed for me and since then, I have continued to base my wardrobe around those colours. The practice of sticking to a colour scheme has encouraged me to become a more conscious consumer, as I now only buy pieces that fit with my chosen colours and I know what colours fit me best. 

The Goal - Pick out an item with your eyes closed, and love it! 

When I started putting my clothes back into my closet after my last purge, I was able to colour code them so easily because all the colours fit together. I also loved looking at my closet and picking out outfits because I could literally close my eyes, reach into my closet, pull out any top and want to wear it! In the past, it would take me forever to get dressed because I didn't truly love everything I owned. If I did this "pick a random top" test back then, the chances of me wanting to wear it would have been slim. 

I have continued to keep this goal in mind, it has allowed me to become a more conscious consumer. I don't want to ruin the beautiful collection and colour set-up that I have going on, so I am very careful with what I choose to bring into my closet. To pass the wardrobe test, the item needs to truly spark joy and fit into what I have identified as my style and colours.

Remember, there are a million beautiful things out there; that doesn't mean they fit to your concept of beauty. Be mindful of what you bring into your space.

A shot of my closet; all the colours match with the sweaters in the heading photo of this post!

A Wardrobe Colour Scheme results in a Simplified Closet

My wardrobe had decreased significantly after my final purge and I am in love with the results. I am sharing this with you because I believe that one major method to creating a wardrobe that sparks joy and becoming a conscious consumer, is to create a structure for the things you buy. Determining what your colours are, what colours you love, and what looks good on you, will prevent you from purchasing items that don't spark joy or fit the rest of your style.

Additionally, you may end up having less than before even though it may not feel that way. Hear me out - if everything in your closet falls under a colour scheme, then at least 80% of the pieces in your closet should match (depending on what your chosen colour scheme is). When everything matches, you really don't need a lot of pieces to create multiple different outfits. This will also help with packing, as you can create more outfits from fewer items.

One colour scheme approach is using "colour families" instead of just single colours, to give yourself wriggle room. This approach is about helping you find focus and direction in your wardrobe, instead of enforcing a feeling of confinement.

Another client closet - colour scheme does not need to imply having lots of colour. If you like the neutrals, blacks, and whites, stick to those.

The Final Purge

I have been referring to my last closet decluttering as my "final purge." This is because this realization of what clothes and colours I love has helped me limit the amount of items I buy that are short-term fills. By this, I mean that we live in a consumer society where deals and access amounts of items are available to us, and in turn, we tend to buy things we don't absolutely love. I am hopeful that the structure of a specific colour scheme will help me maintain a minimal wardrobe of pieces I love and that are long-lasting.

Less is more. This client put her clothes she loved back into her closet after purging and then did not want to ruin the simplicity of the closet by adding items she didn't fully love. Be picky! Use this method to help identify your colour scheme.

Progress not perfection

Now that you have read all this information, here is the most important takeaway: don't worry about making it perfect. My wardrobe is still far from perfect and I could probably still consume less and "want" less. It's really all about progress; I have become a more conscious consumer and I have created and continue the process of creating a wardrobe that is sustainable, functional and represents me. Don't stress about the little things. Don't worry if you have a shirt you love but that doesn't fit into the rest of your colour scheme. That's okay! If you love it, keep it! It's that simple ... so don't over complicate! 

Reach out! 

Are you interested in purging your closet? Or have you been purging and now want to find your colour scheme around which to build your wardrobe? Or do you have questions about what a conscious consumerism is or tips on how to become a more conscious consumer? Reach out to me! Send me an email, leave a comment, or DM me on Instagram! I would be so happy to hear from you!




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Sunday, December 9, 2018

Stear clear of stress and cramming with these insights on time managment


With final exams right around the corner, you will want to read these time management and organizational tips

The winter break is on the horizon, midterms have only just finished (thanks Western!), and the end of the semester has suddenly snuck up on students. Across campus, students are cramming for exams, and swearing they will do anything to not be cramming next exam period.

The cramming struggle can only be solved by the one thing your parents always nagged you about: time management skills. It may have been annoying at the time, but now you realize that if you plan ahead you can rest well knowing your assignments will be handed in on time.

Coming into university life is an adjustment, but over the years, students are able to figure out what professors want and how to best go about getting all their work done. If you are new to the university workload, or just simply done with trying to decode why your professors insist on making impossible exam questions, this one’s for you.

Maybe a bit late now as we border on December, but here are the best time management methods

If you are currently cramming and don’t have time to read the full length of all the tips, let’s make a long story short: plan ahead, use a planner, write notes in a planner, plan what’s coming up, and then plan some more!

Students and experts alike advocate for using some method of calendar and task planning. “I find that the best way for organizing my studying is to really plan out in advance what I have ahead of me. I do that with my notebook planner and with a calendar on my wall,” Lucas Heine, a second-year BMOS student, says. Being able to visualize his deadlines helps him stay focused and decreases stress.

Adrianne Disimoni, a fourth-year criminology student, also uses a whiteboard on her wall for an overview of upcoming deadlines. “I use two calendars. One is a day planner and the other is the computer calendar to allow notifications for upcoming tasks and assignments.”

If you are new to this, it is important to keep it simple and only use one tool for planning. I suggest using a physical planner because it gives you the ability to write down to-dos and physically cross them off. 

Sarah Skwira, a fourth-year student double majoring in environmental health and medical science, learned from her cramming experience for a chemistry exam in first-year. “I had a bio exam the day before and prioritized that, so I ended up really taking the ‘L’ on the chemistry one. Needless to say there was a ‘let’s forget this happened’ party afterwards.”

Now she also encourages having a schedule or a calendar for deadlines. “This saves so much stress. When you do a little bit each day, you will never feel the need to cram or stress about leaving things to the last minute,” she says. “Your brain also can’t absorb information as well when you are stressed.”

If you don’t have one already, your first to-do on your new to-do list, is to go get a wall calendar or a planner or open that iCal app that’s just hanging out in your dock, and put them to work!

Morning Motivation … but I went out last night!

Mornings are the enemy and bane of most people’s existence. Especially in the university lifestyle where there is no 9 am job keeping tabs on you, it’s easy to sleep in until your heart's content.

Disimoni and Skwira have recognized that their motivation and focus is much greater in the morning. “I get up early and go to bed early and I do most of my work in the earlier part of the day because of that,” Skwira says. “Working late into the night or in loud spaces is not something that worked for me,” she adds.

For others, mornings are a definite no-go. “Getting up stupidly early and trying to get a bunch of stuff done has not worked for me,” Heine says. “If forcing yourself to get up will just make you unproductive, don’t do it.”

Generally, people are either night owls or early birds.

“I work well when it’s dark out,” Lucas says. Lucas can be found studying on the 5th floor of Weldon Library where there are no windows. If you too are a night owl vampire, join him, because he admits it gets depressing after a while.

Identify your habits – when and where do you work best? Determine your habit for focusing and create your own personalized routine. Maybe sleeping in is in the cards for you after all!

Make Prioritizing into a Meal

The key to time management success does not come from solely writing deadlines down. You actually need to do the work. The best way to demolish all your assignments and exams, is to break them into bite-sized pieces.

Oliver ranks the priority of his to-do’s depending on when each task is due. “Don’t just plan to do five hours of ‘studying,’” Oliver says. “I try to break it down into specific subjects and time periods; mine are ‘make study notes, study notes, practice questions, study difficult or wrong answers’, and so on.”

Creating sub-tasks under one bigger task helps increase efficiency and decreases feelings of overwhelm.

After Skwira’s stressful chemistry exam back in first-year, she now organizes her time based on what requires the most studying: “The work that requires more cognitive energy will be done earlier in the day. Other work that is more passive I leave for the evenings.”

Make your to-do’s into a meal: Know what’s for breakfast lunch and dinner, and cut each piece of food down into chewable bites. See, fun analogies make the dread of studying a bit better already! You are welcome.

Good is Good Enough

This advice is short and sweet. As a university student, there is so much going on with assignments, exams, clubs, friends, family, and other jobs as well. Sometimes, you just need to do things to get them done.          
           
Oliver suggests making a framework of how long you intend to spend on each task and subtask after you’ve prioritized them. He adds that the most important thing is to not spend more time than is needed on any given task. “When the to-do list feels miles long, done is better than perfect.”

If you are determined to do everything absolutely perfectly in life, here’s the big secret: you will be spending a lot of unnecessary time on things that might not get you anywhere. Spend forever on your thesis, but just write the damn forum post already!

Beware and prepare (again): Other difficulties you might encounter that no one tells you about

1.     “Adulting” gets real

This happens during a stressful exam period when you realize what the concept “adulting” really is. In other words, you finally appreciate everything your parents did for you because you have to plan so much more than just your school work.

Adrianne says she also uses her day planner for personal tasks like meal planning and grocery shopping. This part of student life quickly becomes even more frustrating when you have to carry your close to ripping plastic grocery bags on the bus and through the snow. Without nourishing meals, focusing will become difficult, so use your new found love for planning and have your meals set for that week of study grind time.

2.     Accept and that you will not be able to stay on top of everything

With all the planning and assignments, there is no way you will be able to wait till you’ve finished everything to take your break. It seems as though professors are worried you might have too much free time, so they just pile up some extra assignments. “When you plan ahead and know your schedule, you will legitimately have time for a break,” says Disimoni.  

Give yourself breaks! Watch a show. Read a book. Hang out with friends. Call your mom. Reward yourself for all your planning and hard work. Just don’t wait until you have finished everything; that won’t happen until your semester is done, and that’s a promise.

3.     Sleep is non-negotiable

As hard as it may be with parties, dorm room hangouts, and all-nighters, prioritizing sleep is a must. “I have realized how important sleep is in being productive,” Oliver says. “Decide how many hours of sleep you need and plan it into your study schedule.” That beauty rest is helping you with more than just looks.  

As the exam season nears think of all the Christmas cheer, that is to come when you are done, planning and studying like a crazy one! 


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Wednesday, December 5, 2018

How to Adapt a Minimalist Lifestyle when living with Roommates

5 Tips for wanting to be a minimalist whilst living with roommates

I got lucky but that's not always the case 

I will start this by sharing how blessed I have been to have found roommates that are wonderful, sweet, kind, organized, and clean human beings. (In case that they are reading this, I want to score some brownie points!) We are all organized. Still, we have our own way of doing things, similar to the ways in which we all make different meals. Even though we all value healthy meals, we still prepare food a certain way or love specific meals because we come from different upbringings. Still, there are people who don't value having a tidy space; I've had my own share of experience and I have also lived with boys who do the bare minimum and you find yourself cleaning up after them to keep your own OCD mind at peace.

I feel the need to reiterate that you can be a minimalist and simultaneously have roommates. You simply need to be easy going enough to compromise, which you probably are if you are living with rommmates in the first place!

Here are a few of my tips for dealing with unorganized roommates whilst trying to adapt a more minimalist lifestyle.

1. Make your space your minimalist heaven 

Make your own room and your own space your place of minimalism. Declutter, sort through, organize! Watch minimalist documentaries, read books on creating your space, learn how to let go of the excess clutter.

This space is your own, so whatever is motivating you on this minimalist journey, this is your space to express that. Here you can change the style of the room or make a vision board about what you want your minimalist life to look like, and work towards it.

Remember, minimalism does not need to be something that happens overnight. That may be the experience for some people, but there are no rules so take your time and incorporate what works for and feels right to you. I'm still learning and adapting, and my version of minimalism may look very different to what yours ultimately becomes.

Tip: Your room = your space. Make it your version of minimalism.

2. Let go of the things you can't control 

There is a plain reality of living with roommates: you can't control every part of the house. There are simply shared spaces that you need to let be. The kitchen is one of those spaces where you may have multiples of the same items because each roommate owns one. In my home, everyone brought a few plates so you can't really follow minimalism here because you are all going to move out on your own at one point and no one wants to rebuy items they already had.

Additionally, you don't want to become the person who is shoving their beliefs down other people throats. Just because you have suddenly decided that you want to start your minimalist journey, does not give you the right to go into the common areas and say that there are too many couches or spices or nicknacks, and proceed to get rid of them. (Your roommates may be getting rid of your fairly quickly following that).

You can share your beliefs, but do so by acknowledging that other people are entitled to theirs and try to respect their positions as well.

Tip: Let go of all that you cannot control. You are sharing a space with people, so do not expect everything to be perfect or to go your way. Focus on what you can control and be willing to 'go with the flow' for the rest of it.

3. Share your values with your roommates 

They might not be organized and they may have no interest whatsoever in your quest towards a more minimalist lifestyle. That is okay! Leave them be! You should not try to change their minds, but you can, however, share with them what you are doing. Let them know that you are getting rid things and tell them why. Share the values of minimalism that resonate with you, and communicate how and why you are planning to bring them into your everyday life.

Even if they are not partaking in a shift towards minimalism, sit down with your roommates and explain to them what it means to you. Share with them what some common goals of yours are or maybe what some expectations are for you. Perhaps you suggest that you all try and keep the common areas clean and that every night everyone collects their things they have left lying around throughout the day. Finding common ground in advance that will work for everyone, ultimately saves you from future fights about the order of the space.

Tip: Being open about what you are doing and how you plan on doing it will keep your roommates in the loop and they will (hopefully) be more willing to support you on your journey, even if that means keeping the common areas cleaner.

4. If they are interested, make it a family affair! 

But... maybe they are curious. Maybe they want to join you in some declutter. That's how it started for me. I was so excited about minimalism after reading and watching and hearing about it. I was telling one of my roommates about it, and then she started to get excited about it too. She started listing all the things she had lying in her room or hanging in her closet that she didn't ever use. So that night we both ended up doing a huge purge and it turned out to be an entertaining night of letting things go. It was also motivating to have someone to declutter with and we were able to help each other stay grounded in regards to what we actually needed and loved versus what we were just making excuses for.

Tip: If they are interested, invite them to join you - two is better than one!

5. Be a minimalist roommate

Minimalism is all about adding value to someones life or bringing things into your life that add value to you. Keeping that in mind, being a minimalist roommate means communicating and interacting with your roommates in a respectful way that is value-adding to both of you.

The same value-adding concept works in reverse situations as well. You can be supportive of your roommates and respect their outlook, but they might not be supportive of yours. Reaching back to those minimalist values, it may reveal something about that roommate to you if they are not accepting of who you are. Are they adding value to your life then? This is not a situation you need to be stuck in for the rest of your life, and like the state of your common areas, you cannot expect everything to be perfect. This situation may also be necessary for the time being. Still, it does not need to be forever and you can have the ability to change it.
Tip: Try and put focus towards your actions and being conscious of your relationships with your roommates, and not just the decluttering your own belongings.

Are you wanting to adapt a minimalist lifestyle or already on your journey and living with roommates? Share your tips and hacks to navigating a non-minimalist house of roommates with me in the comments below! I'd love to hear what you are doing to incorporate minimalism into your life when it does not only affect you!

 

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Wednesday, October 10, 2018

New Season Wardrobe Declutter and Organizing

The Turn of a Season is an Ideal Time to Evaluate last seasons clothes and prepare for the upcoming one

At the beginning of the new season, when the summer clothes are no longer needed and the warmer sweaters are needed to be put to the front of the closet, it's a great time to evaluate your wardrobe for the upcoming season. It's time to go through what is in your closet at this moment and see if there is anything you can get rid of now. Time to make note of things that you don't love anymore and see if there is anything you can get rid of that you already weren't in love with anymore last season.

Step 1: Clothes to "pass on"

Take a moment right now. Stop what you're doing. Think about your closet. Really visualize it. Most likely, you could tell me exactly where you top three favorite items are placed. What about the other ones? Can you identify right now, just by thinking about them, which items are not your favorite? Can you start a mental list of what pieces you know you don't wear often/at all that you need to let go of? Are there any you want to try to wear more, before getting that stage of giving them away?

Now, actually go to your closet.  Take out the pieces that you identified in the exercise above. My thinking, if you are doing this seasonally, is that a lot of these clothes will be from the past season that you didn't get around to wearing or didn't want to wear. Those are pieces that you can let go of NOW, and pass on to someone else who can make better use of it! If there is still a pile left of clothes you are not ready to let go of yet, move on to step two!

Step 2: Clothes to "mark" and remember

If you can't get rid of it but you are still unsure of it because you feel like you "might" use it or "might" need an extra sweater, then mark it. A lot of times you don't want to get rid of clothes before a new season starts in case you find a use for them during the cold weather. Still, there are always a few clothes you could pick out of the pile that you can remember not liking last season. For example, summer is ending, so you have let go of the summer pieces you did not wear. Fall is only just beginning so you might want to make a deal with yourself to keep the item for the next 3 months of the season to see if you wear it. Still, if you think back to last fall, you can probably remember whether or not you neglected it back then; if so, it's time to let it go.

 Mark the pieces of clothing that you are somewhat unsure of but are reluctant to get rid of because the new season is only just starting. Take a picture of the piece of clothing and hang the hanger up backward in your closet. If you don't hang the piece of clothing up since it's not an option in terms of space, don't worry, that is was the picture is for.

Use this as a test to see if you wear the pieces during the season. Give yourself a time frame and deadline for when you will go back to look at the pictures and the backward hangers and get rid of the things you did not wear during the season. At this point, you have given yourself time and proven to yourself that it is time to pass these items on.



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Monday, October 1, 2018

30 Day No Buy Challenge: You Made It!

Let's Reflect on your last 30 days   

Final Week Reflection Time

The 30 days of your "no buy" challenge is up. How are you feeling? Think about the last four weeks. What items did you end up buying that you did not need? Did you have any realizations about how you were using things and buying things? Did you end up using more of what you had, and being grateful for what you have now, instead of always buying something new right away?

Interested in this challenge but are just starting? 

If you have just stumbled upon my blog and this challenge, welcome! You can do this challenge on your own anytime. I have been posting about it this past month in order to motivate people and help everyone stayed focus. Even if you are doing this challenge on your own time, head over to my Instagram where I explain each week's challenge on my "30-Day No Buy Highlights," so you can hear all my tips as we go along. All of the weekly challenges are posted here on the blog as well. Check out the breakdown below to find each post! 

"30-Day No Buy Challenge" Challenges

Week 1: Putting your 'wants' into lists

Week 2: Food and Groceries

Week 3: Reshop your closet

Week 4: Entertainment


As you go along, keep in mind that this is just about increasing your awareness around what you buy and purchasing intentionally. Slip-ups happen, especially when you are trying something new; don't beat yourself up about them. All you can do is acknowledge them and remind yourself you are human and start again. Please share your journey with me using the #30daynobuychallenge and tag me @detoxdeclutterdesign on Instagram! 
 
Good luck in your next 30 days of no buying!



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Sunday, September 23, 2018

30 Day No Buy Challenge Week 4: Entertainment

The Big Question: Is everything you do, really stuff you want to be doing?
Weekly Challenge: Only commit to events and buying if it's something you really want to do!   

All About Entertainment

We tend to not think about things that fall under the entertainment category as "things we buy". Even though I would promote "doing" things and making experiences over "buying" things, it is still easy to get pulled into spending money where you didn't need to. Have you ever said "yes" to doing something even though you weren't really interested in seeing that movie or going to that concert, or have you ordered something to eat even though you weren't really hungry?

One huge part of minimalism is saying no and doing what works best for you. The more you say yes to the less time you have, so make sure the activities you are saying yes to are "true yeses"! We sometimes forget that "no" is a word in our vocabulary and that we can use it without feeling guilty or needing to justify. Let go of all the times you said yes and felt overwhelmed with your commitments. Remember how you felt in those moments to help you make the best choices for yourself in the future. 

This Weeks Challenge

Weekly Challenge: With every choice and opportunity that is presented to you this week, ask yourself if this is really something you want to do. Would you do it alone if no one else could come? Does it align with your values and interests? Make sure that the things you are spending your money on this week, you are doing for yourself! If you have already committed to things that might not have been full and true yeses, that's okay. Simply acknowledge that in order to help grow your awareness.

You have made it to the final week of this challenge! You have made it this far, don't give up now! Throughout this final week, start thinking about your experiences from this challenge. Has your urge to buy slowly started to fade away or are you still struggling just as much as you were in the first week? Are you becoming more aware when you buy something and what you buy, making sure it was on your list and that it was a necessity? Reflect on these last couple week and see whether or not your mindset has started to shift. 


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Saturday, September 15, 2018

30 Day No Buy Challenge Week 3: Re-shopping your Closet

This weeks challenge: "re-find" a piece (or multiple pieces) of clothing in your closet that has/have been neglected too long and create a new outfit!   


The Halfway Mark 

Week 3 is upon us and with that, you have made it halfway through this 30 day 'no buy' challenge! By this point, if you have been honest with yourself and have truly refrained from buying everything outside of essentials, you might be getting to the point where you are craving a retail fix. We all know it... it's that dopamine rush you get right when you buy something. The excitement of having something new and the act of purchasing it can take control over our rational thinking. This weeks challenge is meant to help direct that need in a new direction and to uncover something "new" in a different way.

We are neglecting our clothes 

We only wear about 20% of the items in our closet. That means that the job of the other 80% of the clothes is to simply sit in our closets. Maybe they are occasionally worn but most of the time they are being neglected. This becomes a huge problem to our habits in this consumer society, since we constantly want 'more' and 'new' while we are simultaneously we are not appreciating the items we currently have. I'm sure you can think of a handful of things, right now, that you don't wear a lot ... Or maybe not because you have so many items that you start forgetting about most. Just take a moment and become a bit more conscious about which kind of person you are. Do you know you have things to get rid of but can't seem to let them go, or are you unaware of everything you have and the way in which the filled stuffed closet adds stress to your life?

Our closets fill up with new pieces, the older items are neglected, and we constantly feel like we have nothing to wear! Sound familiar? When there is too much stuff, we have a hard time identifying what we really like, especially when close to 80% of the stuff isn't your favorite (at all). When you can eliminate the excess from your closet and minimize it down to the basic favorites, you will always have something to wear. Additionally, you will be more picky regarding the pieces you bring into your closet, ensuring that you are absolutely in love and need each one and that it adds to your overall style.

Craving a Retail Fix? Shop your closet this week! 

If you are craving a retail fix and are wishing for a stroll through the mall, but are maybe nervous of actually going in case you end up wanting to/actually buying something, go for a stroll through your closet instead. Find an item that has been neglected and try putting it into a new outfit. Maybe you can find a new combination that will re-spark your love for that piece again. Pretend you are at a thrift store of unique and special items, and perhaps an item will attract your attention in a different way.

This weeks challenge: "re-find" a piece (or multiple pieces) of clothing in your closet that has/have been neglected too long and create a new outfit! 

Share your new found outfit on Instagram or Facebook with me using the #30daynobuychallenge!   

Bring in Some Decluttering 

This basis of this weeks challenge is not to make you declutter, but it might end up coming to that. If you pull out a piece of clothing for this challenge that you haven't worn in a while and it doesn't fit right anymore or you don't feel amazing in it, that is a sign. It's time to let go of it and free up space in your closet, just for the purpose of having some breathing space. This exercise will not only help, at least partially, fulfill that retail therapy craving but it will also help you identify what your favorite pieces are while encouraging you to eliminate the rest. 



 
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